The author is addressing the importance of Speaking Your Truth.
I have had to do a lot of inner work around this concept. Personally, I think some things do NOT need to be said. My belief is that words are very powerful and what we think and say do create our reality. So if I am in a reactive mode, or in a situation where my being "Right" is more important than connecting from the heart, or if I am "grandstanding" myself, then I keep my trap shut. Before I, speak my truth, I check my intentions. Does what I am wanting to say come from an intention of a desire to be authentic, or am I more in a mode of wanting attention or shaming someone?
And, along my path, I have had to learn not to take things personally. People are gonna be people. Some times we come across someone having a "grumpy" day. I let them have their day the way they want it. Some times we hear something someone says and maybe the tone sets us off. What I have discovered is that 3 people can hear the same thing and there will be 3 different interpretations. Very interesting. Discernment is critical.
I also want to point out the importance of not getting pulled into drama conflicts with people and playing out the roles of Victim, Bully and/or Hero. That paradigm is so over.
And, me speaking my truth when I am in a high emotional state....never a good idea. Ever. Ever. Ever. Much better for me to calm down and review what happened and then communicate from a place where my brain and heart can help me speak.
I am reminded of the book by Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements:
- Be Impeccable with your Word
- Don't take anything personally
- Don't make assumptions
- Always do your best
Having stated My Truth on this subject *smile*, I really like the point the writer made with the "Leon and Kerry" scenario and her Tips for Authentic Expression.
Picture found on Facebook....don't remember which page.
