Who's Right Is It Anyway?

I came across this book last year as I was browsing at a bookstore:

You Can Be Right (Or You Can be MARRIED)

My apologies to the author, I did not read the book.  The title said it all to me.  I got it.  Right away.

How many times has my need to be right been more important than making a personal connection?  Well, no need to bring up the past…I will say this….I have never been married.

2013 was a year about learning how to live with others (for me).  Boy howdy.

Here is what I came away with…

Besides deeper and more fulfilling relationships, I am learning to accept and love my self.  I am allowing.


Here is how I see it - who am I to say that my right is any better than your right?  Who am I to say that you should live my right and abandon your right?  And of course the reverse is true and I sometimes misunderstand the reciprocal nature of communication as I often interpret someone else's expression of right as an invalidation of my right or I will erroneously take their assertion as a suggestion I start conforming to their right as it is superior (to them). 

So confusing.

Not really.

What’s really happening is someone is just sharing their right with me and oh boy is that fun!  I love hearing other people’s right.  What’s right for you is right for you.  What’s right for me is right for me.  Sometimes our rights will be the same or very similar, sometimes they won’t.  But I accept you have a right and I accept that I have a right.  And I allow you to be right and I allow me to be right.  

Can we both be right?